What Does It Take To Change?

How many counselors does it take to change a light bulb? Just one but it has to really want to change. It’s an old joke but it contains truth. In couple’s counseling, especially, I talk about motivations for change. Both people have to be willing to change and we have...

Two Hands of Self-forgiveness

So much of my work involves issues of forgiveness.  In my counseling others, I would guess (since I haven’t actually counted) that about 90% of the people I see have someone in their lives or histories that they need to forgive.  And that is a conservative guess.  If...

Looking Behind Isn’t…

Looking Behind Isn’t What It’s Cracked Up to Be As I near the end of 2014 and set my eyes on 2015, I can’t help but think about keeping the focus forward.  I am reminded of a sermon I heard a while back that said if you focus on the past, you will stay there.  If you...